Love is in the air! Here comes Valentines Day again! The day where it’s all about love, but what does the idea mean to you? Love, of self? Love for all the simplistic and beautiful moments that are present every day? (should we choose to see them)?
Love is actually all around us, every single day and you know what the wise man Rumi said? “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Wise words, I say?
WHAT DOES VALENTINES DAY MEAN TO YOU?
Not to rain on anyone’s parade here, I’m in relationship yet honestly I’ve never been that big on Valentine’s day itself to be honest. Don’t get me wrong I love the ethos behind it, I believe that it is important to recognise love & appreciate each other, I enjoy all the bits & pieces, pretty window displays in all the stores & the quirky, fun side of it all too. Yet, at the same time I can’t help but feel it can also come with a whole load of pressure that can actually, make a lot of people out there feel really bad!
Perhaps you’ve just broken up with the one you loved and now it’s all around you with no escape? Or, perhaps there is no significant other and valentine’s day provokes some awkward feelings from deep inside?
In a relationship? Or perhaps you’re just skint & feel like a failure because you can’t take your lady out on valentines day as you would like?
Sure, it’s nice to give a gift, make something cute & considered, or flowers etc. But personally, I don’t require it just because it’s Valentines day & a certain day of the year? I’d much prefer we would choose to do something nice for each other simply, because we feel like it regardless of the day?
WHAT ABOUT SELF LOVE, DO YOU FEEL THAT TO BE SELFISH?
I realise that sounds terribly selfish! But, when we are true to ourselves and show self love allows a better understanding of ourselves (which I know sounds really cheesy!) Only then do we truly have the ability to fully love & care for others better (not only in a romantic sense).
Too often we hear people talking harshly of themselves! It’s not okay! You wouldn’t lay into a stranger the way we can can grate upon ourselves? So really, why is this acceptable? Bit dangerous too if you ask me! We may even start to believe this negative self-talk should we keep telling ourselves! Perhaps this Valentines day, a moments pause for a bit of self appreciation?
Make them good, loving thoughts? Even when we feel we’ve messed up somehow, are lonely or even blaming ourselves for something There’s nothing about what’s passed that we can change, but moving forwards we, and only we have the power to make a difference?
So, this year on this Valentine’s day the way I’m approaching it is with a bit of time, thought & appreciation for myself, for my love, and for all the awesome & amazing people I am lucky enough to have in my life. There is no right or wrong way to love but, I’ll be dammed if I make you take me out and spend double on a dinner just because it’s valentine’s day! Let’s cook together, eat together and let our minds wonder away together & show love to each other every day <3
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